How to Verify Someone Before Meeting

Before you meet anyone in person, you have the right to ask for reassurance that they are who they say they are.
Here are some safe, respectful ways to do it:

  1. Ask for a Video Call First 📹
    • Use Zoom, FaceTime, or WhatsApp video to talk face-to-face.
    • Suggest a short, casual call to “put a face to the name.”
  2. Exchange Photos Doing a Simple Action 📸
    • Ask them to send a photo holding a specific object (like a coffee mug or today’s newspaper).
    • This proves the photo is recent and genuine.
  3. Ask for a Social Media Profile 🌐
    • Many people have a Facebook, LinkedIn, or other public profile you can check.
    • Look for consistent photos and life details.
  4. Meet in a Group First 👥
    • Suggest meeting for the first time at one of our group events, so others are around.
  5. Run Your Own Public Search 🔍
    • You can use public record search tools like BeenVerified, Spokeo, or Whitepages if you choose.
    • These can confirm basic identity details.
  6. Swap Phone Calls Before Meeting 📞
    • A real conversation can give you a sense of their personality and intentions.
  7. Ask About Mutual Connections 🤝
    • Sometimes you might share a friend or community contact who can vouch for them.
  8. Set Clear Boundaries 🚦
    • Let them know where you stand on topics like sharing personal information, travel, or finances.

You could also include a downloadable PDF checklist so members can print it and keep it by the phone or computer.
That’s especially helpful for seniors who aren’t online 24/7.

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